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False Memories & Imaginary Pain
As people are trying to heal themselves of their various energetic injuries sustained over their life time, one particular problem revolves around the topic of "False Memories" and "Imaginary Pain". All memories have the aspect of possibly being like a nightmare, or a dream; the older they become, the harder it is to actually tell what was real and what might only be imagined, what is a real mental image and what a dream or development of the original experience. When it comes to treating such events, this uncertainty causes a lot of problems in and of itself; but the effect is exacerbated when the very experience itself is questioned or negated by outsiders.
There are a lot of people out there who were abused as children in one way or the other, traumatised entirely and something happened that made them doubt the reality and validity of their own truthful experience. The classic scenario would be that they were accused of lying instead of someone listening and trying to help. Or accused of "making things worse than they are", or entirely "making up this whole story for attention".
When this happens, the person in question loses faith in knowing what is real and what is imaginary firstly (which will become ever more problematic as time goes on and it gets more and more difficult to tell memories from vivid dreams, or fantasies), and secondly loses trust in the validity of their own experiences of the moment, an essential feedback device for negotiating any type of reality or even to know what needs to be done to protect oneself, heal oneself or restore oneself in any given situation.
As is standard in this society, imaginary pains cannot be *in and of themselves* be presented for treatment but are presumed to be at best, clues to what "the real problem" actually is. In actuality, it is highly likely in many cases that the imaginary pains or problems ARE the real problem - the way they express themselves might be a metaphorised version as the person in question tries to explain best they can what the problem is, but they don't stand for anything else that is REALLER at all.
In order to do something about what is a really big structural problem in someones processing systems (and one that gets worse in time) the key is to deal with each and every scenario, idea, set up AS THOUGH THEY WERE ALL ENTIRELY REAL and really did happen.
There really WAS a monster in the closet, a snake under the bed, a spider in the corner of the room. That lion really did come and ate up the teddy bears. I really was that terrified in the dream - it was not JUST a dream and your terror, your pain and experience means nothing as a result. It was there, it was real. It deserves attention and treatment.
This does a whole heap for the totality of a person all at once.
From the removal of the judgemental real=good, imagined=bad divide, which in itself gives reason and excuse and even need to inflict further punishment on imaginary set ups, concerns, pains, happenings to showing due attention and care for ALL parts of the system, this is a very healing thing. It also allows previously shut out and repressed injuries to come out into the open and present themselves for a resolution that is long overdue.
There is a lot more to this, but lastly I would mention that in the healing of the real/imaginary divide, a most profound reorganisation of self takes place. A one that is essential to finally heal many a broken heart.
17. 05.03
Suggested Further Reading:
Events Psychology - How To Understand Yourself & Other People
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