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False Memories & Imaginary Pain - Is It Real?

False Memories & Imaginary Pain - Is It Real?

There are a lot of people out there who were abused as children in one way or the other, traumatised entirely and something happened that made them doubt the reality and validity of their own truthful experience. The classic scenario would be that they were accused of lying instead of someone listening and trying to help. Or accused of "making things worse than they are", or entirely "making up this whole story for attention". Here is a simple and profound idea for a resolution of this bitter (and often frightening) conflict between "real" and "imagined" injuries, memories and pain.

Overcoming False Memory Syndrome


False Memories & Imaginary Pain

As people are trying to heal themselves of their various energetic injuries sustained over their life time, one particular problem revolves around the topic of "False Memories" and "Imaginary Pain". All memories have the aspect of possibly being like a nightmare, or a dream; the older they become, the harder it is to actually tell what was real and what might only be imagined, what is a real mental image and what a dream or development of the original experience. When it comes to treating such events, this uncertainty causes a lot of problems in and of itself; but the effect is exacerbated when the very experience itself is questioned or negated by outsiders.

There are a lot of people out there who were abused as children in one way or the other, traumatised entirely and something happened that made them doubt the reality and validity of their own truthful experience. The classic scenario would be that they were accused of lying instead of someone listening and trying to help. Or accused of "making things worse than they are", or entirely "making up this whole story for attention".
When this happens, the person in question loses faith in knowing what is real and what is imaginary firstly (which will become ever more problematic as time goes on and it gets more and more difficult to tell memories from vivid dreams, or fantasies), and secondly loses trust in the validity of their own experiences of the moment, an essential feedback device for negotiating any type of reality or even to know what needs to be done to protect oneself, heal oneself or restore oneself in any given situation.As is standard in this society, imaginary pains cannot be *in and of themselves* be presented for treatment but are presumed to be at best, clues to what "the real problem" actually is. In actuality, it is highly likely in many cases that the imaginary pains or problems ARE the real problem - the way they express themselves might be a metaphorised version as the person in question tries to explain best they can what the problem is, but they don't stand for anything else that is REALLER at all.

In order to do something about what is a really big structural problem in someones processing systems (and one that gets worse in time) the key is to deal with each and every scenario, idea, set up AS THOUGH THEY WERE ALL ENTIRELY REAL and really did happen.

There really WAS a monster in the closet, a snake under the bed, a spider in the corner of the room. That lion really did come and ate up the teddy bears. I really was that terrified in the dream - it was not JUST a dream and your terror, your pain and experience means nothing as a result. It was there, it was real. It deserves attention and treatment.

This does a whole heap for the totality of a person all at once.

From the removal of the judgemental real=good, imagined=bad divide, which in itself gives reason and excuse and even need to inflict further punishment on imaginary set ups, concerns, pains, happenings to showing due attention and care for ALL parts of the system, this is a very healing thing. It also allows previously shut out and repressed injuries to come out into the open and present themselves for a resolution that is long overdue.

There is a lot more to this, but I would mention that in the healing of the real/imaginary divide, a most profound reorganisation of self takes place. A one that is essential to finally heal many a broken heart, mind, spirit and body.

How do you heal false memories and imaginary pain?

Exactly the same way as you would deal with any memory or intrapersonal data as we call it these days; and exactly the same as you would deal with any emotional pain or discomfort.

In Events Psychology and Project Sanctuary, we talk about "memory enrichment." What that means is that we take the content of the data, the content of the memory, and make changes to it; we enrich it by adding components which will make the memory better. For example, if we have a potential false memory of satanic child abuse, we can add an influx of angels that save the child and take it somewhere safe; or have the current adult walk into that memory habitat and stand up for the child, protect it and take it away.

Memory enrichments are perfectly safe because we do them consciously; they are not an accidental disturbance, but deliberately done and so we remember that we chose on this day to add something to the memory to evolve it.

The fact is that whatever it was, it isn't here any longer; it is all data now, intrapersonal data at that, and being so, it belongs to the person who owns the data, and they can do with it whatever they want to.

Memory enrichment and Project Sanctuary style interventions change the way we feel about any form of memory, fantasy, hallucination or false memory; but we can also change emotions directly by using the link to the energy body (see energy healing for child abuse survivors).

Instead of dealing with the content, we simply ask, "How does thinking about that make you feel? And where do you feel that in your body? Show me with your hands."

That gives us the location of the injury in the energy body, and now we can use pure energy healing to affect a change.

This is particularly useful when the content of the data is extremely disturbed, which happens through stress naturally, and also through an overlay of memories, ideas, nightmares which create altogether what we call Hieronymos Bosch style visions that seem entirely insane. These sorts of things are simply extremely disturbed data streams, and apart from telling us that the data stream is disturbed, they really have no meaning worth interacting with. We find that when we have healed the injuries in the energy body which caused these immense stress disturbances, thoughts, visions and memories likewise "calm down" and become more logical.

Either way, the most important message here is that it doesn't matter at all to an individual if anything "really happened" in the sense that you have a video tape you can give to a policeman. That's not the point and never was the point at all. In the context of a person's life what is important is how they respond to and organise their own data streams, their intrapersonal collection of life experiences, and what they do with that.

A vision or a nightmare are in every way as real to an individual as any hard provable memory; and until and unless we deal with all data in the same proactive and non-judgemental way, we can't progress or evolve towards much more clarity and logic or a self concept that works for us, and this is especially the case for child abuse survivors.

 

Posted Feb 25, 2011   

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